Why do couples seek therapy?
Their concerns usually involve relational matters, such as emotional disengagement and waning commitment, power struggles, problem-solving and communication difficulties, jealousy and extramarital involvements, value and role conflicts, sexual dissatisfaction, and abuse and violence (Geiss & O’Leary)
Generally, couples seek therapy because of threats to the security and stability of their relationships with the most significant attachment figures of adult life (Johnson & Denton, 2002).
In couples therapy I work with individuals to build their trust and respect for themselves and each other and thereby improve their communication patterns. Starting from the premise of identifying what keeps couples wanting to be attached. Identifying common and important shared values and synchronistic identities. From this strong intrinsic foundation it becomes easier to deal with the exterior turbulence.
“In all cultures, the family imprints its members with selfhood. Human experience of identity has two elements; a sense of belonging and a sense of being separate. The laboratory in which these ingredients are mixed and dispersed is the family, the matrix of identity.” Salvador Minuchin
“In every conceivable manner, the family is a link to our past and a bridge to our future.” Alex Haley
I use structural and strategic family therapy models to help families become healthy again. Structural family therapy highlights the importance of clear and flexible roles for healthy family functioning. This sort of therapy involves changing the family structure by modifying the way people relate to each other. The focus is on the present using direct, indirect and paradoxical directives.